Posted by: Dr Churchill | June 15, 2014

13 magical, lucky, and lyrical ideas to plant in your Brain’s Victory Garden of Thoughtful Action for Life

The 13 magical, lucky, and lyrical ideas to plant in your Brain’s Victory Garden of Thoughtful Action for Life Change.

These ideas are nowhere near my usual thoughts, yet I’ve found them to be key to inspiring and maintaining CHANGE in ourselves for the GOOD and for the long term.

Feast your mind here, because I don’t know when I’ll be feeling again like this…

We all know what’s good and what’s not.

We know what is right and what is wrong…

And you know when You’ve been straight forward good or not.

So how do you better yourself ?

You know how you can till your garden until the cows come home and still see nothing sprouting up…

Same with your Life.

You can bust your balls at this or the other endeavour and get nowhere unless you convince yourself to jump.

You can hack at your Brain all You want and if you don’t Love yourself — Nothing much matters.

Same as you can try to learn something a hundred times and it just doesn’t sink in.

I know that when you are being told a thousand times in as many different ways the most important lesson this Life has to give and you still don’t get it…

And you don’t even know it’s a problem…

You are just being human.

Same like the rest of us.

Because we all strive to internalize the Good and useful knowledge yet we always leave it for later.

And when you finally have time to seek this disciplined knowledge — you skip through it and get no benefit either.

Because our learning is communal and we can’t get out of the groove. So we can’t learn something nobody else wants to learn.

Yet sometimes all you need is an epiphany.

An epiphany often comes like a transformative Life Experience and is the key to wake you up — before You “get it.”

Kinda like a Damascus moment: The instance when Paul of Tarsus got blinded and had the capacity to really “see” for the first time what he was fighting…

An epiphany is a shock to the system. A necessary shock before you can start seeing and is the pivot before the lesson finally gets through.

Have you ever had something like it?

Sounds familiar?


So the short and the long of it is this: “You’ve got to Love”

You’ve got to Yourself baby, as if Your Life Depend On It.

And then You’ve got to Love all others too.

Because you might have not noticed but your Life is on fire…

So that’s what you’ve got to do, and that’s how you till your garden effectively.

So that’s the big one along with the epiphanies tested and discussed below that are the key life lessons that many of us learned years ago, and have been reminded constantly, through the school of hard knocks of Life — yet for whatever reason, you haven’t grasped.

1.  Acting with Integrity always comes First: We emphasize always being honest and truthful because this is the only way to be Successfully Engaged in this game we call Life. Am saying this because am a strong believer in measuring result with impact metrics; all business or social enterprise divisions report on key performance indicators. We make sure the work we are engaged in is successful, impactful, and rewarding for the practitioners, colleagues and partners. Partners being the customers and the clients alike, not just the suppliers or service partners. We measure things because what gets measured gets managed, and if not, we switch gears until all things are quantified.

2. Positivity affects the Outcome more than anything else. Be always present in the moment with a Positive Attitude, because a positive attitude goes a long way in assembling, motivating, and winning, with a successful team. We look for people with a positive outlook who encourage each other. I never hold back praise if one is deserving of recognition. Happy people are more likely to get results, and this corporate culture breeds success.

3. Passion for Excellence. Power up your game with a Passion for Excellence – People who are passionate about what they do naturally tend to exceed expectations. To love excellence you must first Love yourself. So go ahead You have Licence to Love yourself and then all others.

4. Live and perform your service as if you are gonna live forever but beware that the average human life is relatively short, so make it count. We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know.  It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step.  You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is. LIVE your life TODAY.  Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either.  We are all having a Life Sentence. That much is clear. But no worries – methinks, the turf is greener on the other side. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action, but don’t be afraid of death since we generally speaking only die once.  Death is not the greatest loss in life.  The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive.  The Loss of Love. The loss of the lives of those you love. So for fuck’s sake: Get out of your comfortable cocoon. Jump out of your skin. Be bold.  Be courageous.  It’s OK to be scared to death, but then take the next step anyway.

5.  You will only ever live the life you create for yourself. Your life is yours alone.  Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you.  They can walk with you, but not in your shoes.  So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense. Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t.  Be productive and patient.  And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.  This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices.  May your actions speak louder than your words.  May your life preach louder than your lips.  May your success be your noise in the end. And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it.  Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart.

6.  Being busy does NOT mean being productive. Business is not busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect.  Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time.  We simply don’t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should. Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days.  Just take a quick look around.  Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin.  Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time.  They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc.  They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep.  Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations.  Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance.  But it’s all an illusion.  They’re like hamsters running on a wheel. Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term.  We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.

7.  Some kind of failure always occurs before success. Most mistakes are unavoidable.  Learn to forgive yourself.  It’s not a problem to make them.  It’s only a problem if you never learn from them. If you’re too afraid of failure, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful.  The solution to this problem is making friends with failure.  You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner?  The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.  Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us. Bottom line:  Just because it’s not happening now, doesn’t mean it never will.  Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.

8.  Thinking and doing are two very different things. Success never comes to look for you while you wait around thinking about it. You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.  Knowledge is basically useless without action.  Good things don’t come to those who wait; they come to those who work on meaningful goals.  Ask yourself what’s really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer. And remember, if you wait until you feel 100% ready to begin, you’ll likely be waiting the rest of your life.

9.  You don’t have to wait for an apology to forgive. Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got.  The key is to be thankful for every experience – positive or negative.  It’s taking a step back and saying, “Thank you for the lesson.”  It’s realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today’s happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head. Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep.  When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self.  It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.

10.  Some people are simply the wrong match for you. You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down.  You shouldn’t force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure every time you’re with them, for whatever reason, they’re probably not close friend material.  If they make you feel like you can’t be yourself, or if they make you “less than” in any way, don’t pursue a connection with them.  If you feel emotionally drained after hanging out with them or get a small hit of anxiety when you are reminded of them, listen to your intuition.  There are so many “right people” for you, who energize you and inspire you to be your best self.  It makes no sense to force it with people who are the wrong match for you.

11.  It’s not other people’s job to love you; it’s yours. It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself.  You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.  So make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you.  Know your worth, even if they don’t. Today, let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are.  Yes, let someone love you despite all of this, and let that someone be YOU.

12.  Be someone based on your character and the work you do, not on what you own, because your things are not who YOU are. Stuff really is just stuff, and it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person.  Most of us can make do with much less than we think we need.  That’s a valuable reminder, especially in a hugely consumer-driven culture that focuses more on material things than meaningful connections and experiences. You have to create your own culture.  Don’t watch TV, don’t read every fashion magazine, and don’t consume too much of the evening news.  Find the strength to fill your time with meaningful experiences.  The space and time you are occupying at this very moment is LIFE, and if you’re worrying about Kim Kardashian’s wedding to sweaty Kayne, or Jollie’s magnificent Maleficence, or Lebron James, or some other famous freak face, then you are disempowered.  You’re giving your life away to marketing and media trickery, which is created by big companies to ultimately motivate you to want to dress a certain way, look a certain way, and be a certain way.  This is tragic, this kind of thinking.  It’s all just Hollywood brainwashing.  What is real is YOU and your friends and your family, your loves, your highs, your hopes, your plans, your fears, etc. Too often we’re told that we’re not important, we’re just peripheral to what is.  “Get a degree, get a job, get a car, get a house, and keep on getting.”  And it’s sad, because someday you’ll wake up and realize you’ve been tricked.  And all you’ll want then is to reclaim your mind by getting it out of the hands of the brainwashers who want to turn you into a drone that buys everything that isn’t needed to impress everyone that isn’t important, by living a Life that doesn’t matter.

13.  Everything Flows – Everything changes — Constantly improving the view each and every second. So if you don’t like the weather, just wait a little and it will shift. Same goes for everything else in Life.  So Go ahead and embrace change and realize it happens for a reason.  It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it. Be serious about accepting and inviting Change because what you have today may become what you had by tomorrow.  And usually this is a good thing. If you understand this then all the flow will be positive. Don’t be afraid and above all else — please don’t interrupt the journey, because you never know where you’ll end up.  Things change, often spontaneously.  People and circumstances come and go.  Life doesn’t stop for anybody.  It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day.  It’s likely happening to someone nearby right now.

Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives.  A seemingly innocuous decision, a short walk, a drive on the fork of the road, a new path, or a simple decision, could rattle our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth.  So be mindful of that and make it count. Above all else be prepared. Have your Seismic preparedness kit at hand and sprinkle some Pixie dust on all your Life… Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event.  And these events are always happening. So make them turn all positive in the end by being yourself positive first.

However good or bad a situation is now — don’t worry because it will change.  That’s the one thing you can count on.  So when life is good, enjoy it.  Don’t go looking for something better every second.  Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have while they have it.

Trust that Change is the only constant in the Universe.

And that is a really good thing…




This, my friends, is my attempt at helping all of you,  to “get it” and “remember it” once and for all…

And maybe practice it once in a while too.

Do this…

because nothing else matters when your Life is on fire.

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