Posted by: Dr Pano Kroko Churchill | November 1, 2015

Please keep in mind that to love without knowing how to love hurts the person we love…

You’ve been n Love?

Right…

You’ve fallen out of Love?

Right…

Now imagine that it was all You and in your head.

You loved — You didn’t love.

Still the same

The first step to love is to take this task seriously.

Try to become aware that love is an art.

An art form, just as living is an art;

if we want to learn how to love we must proceed in the same way as if we want to learn any other art.

Love comes slowly but when it arrives, cherish it, and remember that whatever it is that you accept — that is exactly what you will get.

Understand that love is a great mirror—it will show us who we are. That is only, if we allow it to, because it is ourselves that can make us happy. It is not the other person’s responsibility to attend to our happiness.

Don’t say words with the intent to hurt, but when you fight try to cede ground, accept change in status, and forgive easily.

However never be afraid to disagree. Disagreement is healthy. And try to never be too busy for each other. Do not punish, and don’t accept punishment either. That’s not why You are in a relationship. Accept honest criticism, because its good for us. Admit when you are wrong, and correct things quickly. Support each other when the going gets tough.

Live in the moment—be present. Leave the past where it belongs. Leave drama out of it. Don’t try to control. Allow a small amount of jealousy. Don’t use comparisons. Celebrate differences. Communicate openly and honestly. Listen very carefully.

Don’t judge. Don’t manipulate to get results. Learn and grow. Don’t try to change each other. Don’t condemn each other’s family and friends. Lines, flaws and imperfections are beautiful.

Sometimes, we mistake lust for love. We mistake an amazing sexual connection as love. We mistake “escape” with love. And we definitely mistake attachment to the other person as love. That’s not true love, because true love is one where there is no distrust, no fear and no hiding who you really are.

It’s one where the other person doesn’t place rules and conditions on you. They give you room to be yourself at all times even if it differs from them and they give you space when you need it, even when it doesn’t include them.

Trust your instincts, but don’t be paranoid. Don’t compromise your morals and values and don’t expect them to either. Instead of power, aim for balance. Space is needed to breathe and to grow. Accept that you are both unique—never compare.

Have fun, laugh and play. Play a lot, but also try to include the other and be each other’s best friend. Don’t play mind games — play sports. Do not carelessly throw away love. Don’t waste energy with negative thoughts.

Compliment often. Discover each other. Be attentive and understand what’s not said. Do at least one romantic and thoughtful thing every day. Take picnics and sleep under the stars.

Don’t just speak about it, show love. Walk together, cook together, bathe together, read together. Do not be afraid, love requires surrender. Be loyal and faithful. Trust.

Be grateful. Love is a tenacious adventure. Fluidity is good, accept change. Real Love is one that triumphs over time. Don’t sleepwalk into a fight. Don’t cling to it, know when to let go. Discover what turns you both on and explore it. Make love, but also fvck regularly and vigorously.

Give and receive without measure. Never gamble with Love and other people’s feelings, because that’s what you can’t afford to lose…

Love conquers all.

It even conquers time, space, people, and the World.

Always be considerate.

That’s all

Yours,

Dr Kroko

PS:

And remember that some artists are better than others, but this didn’t stop anyone from attempting to paint spring lilies…


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